Shame Stories

One of the least appreciated consequences of protracted reading difficulties is shame. Feeling to blame for being unable to read well enough leads to feelings of shame while trying to read. This can lead to a dangerous downward spiral for two reasons: 1) When shame triggers it 'shocks' and disrupts cognitive processing and weakens or breaks the flow of processing necessary to continue reading. 2)  People instinctually avoid engaging in activities that cause them to feel shame. The more learning to read triggers feelings of shame the greater the desire to avoid learning to read.  To make matters worse, reading shame leads people to hide their reading difficulties from those who could most help them. 

In short, shame is devastating to immediate cognitive processing and it undermines the motivation and stamina necessary to learn to read.  Understanding and learning to deal with reading shame is critically necessary for all those who work to support struggling readers.

Throughout the work of the Children of the Code project we have heard stories that illustrate and exemplify aspects of 'reading shame'.  Here's a few examples from our interviews:

 

Stories of Reading Shame

Rick Lavoie: Hearing Problems

Sally Shaywitz: Secret Shame 

James Wendorf: Two Ex-Governors

Robert Wedgeworth: Low Literate Adult Consumers

Michael Merzenich:Wealthy Dyslexia Investor

Reid Lyon: They feel like they're failures; they tell us that

Peter Leone: Dying to Learn but Hiding in Shame

Pat Lindamood & Nanci Bell: Low-Literate Neurosurgeons

Timothy Shanahan: Hiding It From Her Children

Cognitive Consequences

Donald Nathanson: The Cognitive Shock of Shame

Russ Whitehurst: Shame Disrupts Cognition

Anne Cunningham: Shame Prevents Engagement 


Zvia Breznitz: The Effect of Affect on Cognition

 

 

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Warning: Protracted difficulty in learning to read can lead to maladaptive mental and emotional habits that endanger the general health of learning.  Above all else, do no harm.

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